Meet your facilitator.
I am Trevor James, a Certified Touch & Cuddle Therapist, Masseur, and Touch & Intimacy Coach.
My passion lies in helping men reconnect with their bodies, minds, spirituality, and sexuality through the power of touch, connection, intimacy, and community.
In my work, I focus on creating safe and supportive environments where men can explore and embrace their emotions and physical selves. I understand that men often face challenges in their relationships with their bodies, minds, spirituality, and sexuality. My mission is to guide them in rebalancing these elements to foster healthier and more fulfilling lives.
Through group workshops and personalized coaching for couples, I offer men the tools and techniques they need to connect with their bodies and emotions in a positive and mindful way. By doing so, I help them cultivate a balanced and satisfying relationship with touch, intimacy, mindfulness, and sexuality.
I believe that when men can integrate all aspects of their identity, they are better equipped to manage their emotions and relationships positively. My approach is holistic, ensuring that each individual feels supported and empowered throughout their journey.
My Story
As a man, I've often found myself struggling to integrate three core aspects of my being: spirituality, sexuality, and intimacy. This journey has been anything but straightforward, marked by moments of confusion, self-doubt, and profound revelation. Here, I share my personal experiences in hopes that others might find solace and understanding in their own journeys.
From a young age, I was taught that spirituality and sexuality were two separate realms. Growing up in a conservative environment, spirituality was framed as a sacred, pure pursuit, while sexuality was often shrouded in shame and secrecy. The messages were clear: spiritual growth was to be pursued with fervor, while sexual desires were to be controlled, if not outright suppressed. Intimacy, on the other hand, seemed like an elusive concept—something I was supposed to desire and excel at, yet was never clearly explained or demonstrated in a healthy way.
In my twenties, I began to question these dichotomies. The more I delved into my spiritual practices, the more I felt an internal dissonance. My spiritual practice felt incomplete and disconnected from my physical and emotional experiences. Despite engaging in meditation, prayer, and other spiritual rituals, there was an underlying feeling that something was missing. My relationships, too, suffered from this fragmentation. I longed for a deeper connection but was unsure how to bridge these parts of myself.
A turning point came when I started exploring mindfulness and meditation. These practices taught me to be present with my thoughts and feelings without judgment. Through mindfulness, I began to understand that my sexuality was not something to be hidden or ashamed of, but a natural and beautiful part of my humanity. This realization was both liberating and terrifying, as it meant challenging deeply ingrained beliefs and societal norms that I had internalized.
Integrating intimacy into this mix was equally challenging. Intimacy requires vulnerability—a willingness to be seen and accepted as we are, flaws and all. For me, this meant opening up about my struggles, fears, and desires with my partner. It wasn't easy; the fear of rejection and judgment loomed large. But as I took small steps toward vulnerability, I discovered that true intimacy could not exist without authenticity. The more honest I became about my needs and insecurities, the more profound and genuine my connections became.
One of the most profound lessons I've learned is that integrating spirituality, sexuality, and intimacy is not about achieving perfection. It's about embracing the messiness of being human and allowing these aspects of ourselves to coexist harmoniously. This integration has deepened my relationships, both with others and with myself, fostering a sense of wholeness and peace. I began to see that my spirituality could be enhanced by acknowledging my sexual self and that true intimacy required a blend of both spiritual and physical presence.
For too long, I've witnessed men compartmentalize themselves – the spiritual yearning left separate from the raw power of sexuality, and intimacy relegated to a distant corner. This retreat, "Totally You: Integrating Spirituality, Sexuality and Intimacy," was born from a deep desire to ignite a revolution. I envision a world where men can embrace the totality of their being, where these fundamental aspects intertwine to create a life of vibrant authenticity. Here, in the cradle of Costa Rica's wild beauty, we'll weave a tapestry of self-discovery, shattering limitations and empowering you to live as your most whole and magnificent self. Here, under the canopy of the rainforest, I invite you to break free from societal constraints and embrace the symphony of your authentic self. Let's create a brotherhood built on open conversations, where vulnerability isn't a weakness but the bridge to connection and purpose.