Frequently asked questions.
General FAQs
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Good question. I’m a Certified Touch Therapist and Masseur, and Touch & Intimacy Coach. I help men reconnect with themselves—body, heart, and spirit—through touch, intimacy, and authentic connection. My work includes massage therapy, cuddle therapy, couples and individual coaching, sacred intimacy sessions, workshops, and retreats. Each experience is designed to help men feel safe, seen, and deeply nourished.
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Massage therapy focuses on relaxation, release, and body awareness.
Cuddle therapy centers on emotional safety and platonic intimacy.
Sacred intimacy invites a deeper exploration of erotic energy and embodied connection.
Workshops and retreats blend these practices in community, where learning and transformation unfold together. -
I am located in Hollywood on the corner of Waring Avenue and Wilcox in Los Angeles. I also visit Palm Springs periodically, and on request.
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My online booking tool (https://trevorjamesla.as.me) shows the latest available slots. You can also text or call 213.588.4242 for special requests.
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Cash is preferred but I also accept Venmo, CashApp, Zelle and all major credit cards (with a $5 surcharge).
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I work primarily with men—gay, bisexual, straight, curious, and everything in between—who are ready to explore touch, intimacy, and authenticity in a safe, judgment-free space.
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I fill the niche for men who prefer the touch of other men for bodywork regardless of sexual orientation.
Also because men need spaces to feel safe in their vulnerability, desire, and longing for connection. Too often we’re taught to armor up. My work offers a place to soften, to feel, and to come home to yourself.
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Tips and gifts are never required, so I will receive any additional generosity you choose to extend me with surprise and excitement.
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No. My work is about connection, healing, and embodiment—not performance or gratification. While sessions may include erotic energy, everything is guided by consent, presence, and clear boundaries.
About Sessions
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We begin with a short conversation to set intentions and boundaries. From there, I guide you through breathwork, touch, and mindful connection—always at your comfort level. My Hollywood studio is warm, private, and welcoming, with soft lighting and music that help you fully relax.
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You choose your level of comfort. Many clients prefer to undress for massage or intimacy work, but you’ll always have agency. I’ll never ask you to do anything you haven’t consented to.
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Sessions could be 60 minutes to two hours depending on the session. That gives enough time to drop in, relax, and move beyond the surface layers of tension or anxiety.
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Yes. I offer virtual coaching and guided embodiment sessions for select services for clients outside Los Angeles or those who prefer to work from home. Touch may not be physical, but intimacy and connection absolutely are.
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Absolutely. Everything shared in session stays private. I hold a strong code of ethics, clear consent protocols, and a zero-tolerance policy for disrespectful behavior.
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That’s totally natural. Touch is powerful, and arousal is simply one of the body’s responses. We treat it with mindfulness, not shame. It’s welcome—but it’s never the goal.
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Then you’re human. Many clients arrive feeling anxious or unsure. My role is to create an atmosphere where you can exhale, take your time, and rediscover what safety in touch feels like.
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Yes. I offer couples coaching and guided touch sessions that help partners reconnect, communicate, and rediscover pleasure and intimacy in new ways.
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Book a free 15-minute initial consultation call. We’ll talk through what you’re hoping for, and find the best path together.
Massage FAQs
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This is YOUR session. If you want anything changed: pressure, areas worked, position or if you are too hot or too cold ... please let me know! My feelings won’t be hurt by you asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy. Also, what you requested in one session may be different in another. If you had a full body massage last time, but this time you only want your back/neck/shoulders/arms worked, it's perfectly fine to let me know.
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You should undress to the level you are comfortable. For a full body massage, or a sensual massage most get completely undressed.
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If you’re uncomfortable with getting a specific area treated don’t be embarrassed to mention it to me. I can avoid those areas. I will typically ask you before I begin your massage.
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Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that this treatment is all about you relaxing and enjoying the experience. In many instances, people may feel more relaxed starting off talking, and as the massage progresses, enter quiet states of relaxation. The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I am doing anything that is making you uncomfortable, please let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you it’s perfectly ok to let me know!
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It means everything is working! Yet, most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or, they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there is no reason to be embarrassed. It is entirely normal get an erection even during a non-sexual, therapeutic, full body massage. Touch administered to any part of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which can result in a partial or complete erection. Besides, what’s an erection between men? We all get them. Just relax and enjoy the massage.
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Make yourself comfortable. If I need you to adjust your position, I will either move you, or ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session; others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your massage, and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax.
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You can expect to receive an excellent, and relaxing massage combined with sensual elements, if you so choose. I will use established massage techniques together with sensual touch during your massage and I generally allow mutual touch. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time. (You can also read my blog on gay massage etiquette or this one on massage etiquette).
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Absolutely! It is, first and foremost, a massage like you would get anywhere else, preformed by an experienced masseur. You get to choose how sensual — or not — you want your experience to be. Your sexuality is your own business and I won’t ask. Nothing in the world can ‘make you gay’. Whether you want to call it ‘m4m massage’, ‘men’s massage’, or ‘gay massage’, it’s all the same to me. You can read my blog post about this. This is a judgment-free zone, and you will be in complete control at all times. You can be as involved or not as you want, so you will not be made to do anything you’d rather not do.
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Massage is in itself inherently sensual. The main difference between a regular and ‘sensual’ massage is intent. Sensual massage is still a regular massage, but there are just fewer boundaries on how I touch you. I can provide more of a sensual session with erotic elements. But those elements vary depending on how well the client and I interact, communicate, and what boundaries are agreed on before the session. When requesting a session, I’d rather you not discuss your sexual fantasies with me through text, or over the phone. I always prefer to discuss boundaries in person.
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I do not offer sex with clients.
Cuddling FAQs
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There are almost 80 ways to cuddle, so it’s different for every session. People are unique and have their own preferences. Some like to talk, some don’t. Some like a lot of physical contact, some like a little. Sometimes you might feel lively and playful, other times you might feel quiet and introspective. There are a lot of right ways to cuddle! Half of the fun is in discovering what is right for YOU. Have fun!
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Once you’ve changed and gotten settled, we’ll chat for a few minutes to get to know one another, and then I’ll guide you through some breathing and relaxation activities to get you started. You will have a chance to ask any questions you might have. Our session could include eye-contact, hugging, sharing conversation or quiet, hand-holding, caressing, spooning and lots of other activities. There are almost 80 different cuddling positions, so there’s something for everyone. Our session can be at my place, or your place, or in a public place. It could be a walk in the park holding hands, or cuddling in the movie theaterYou can come with your ideas and requests. What I offer you is a safe space to feel loved, understood, and appreciated.
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Yes, absolutely! Please allow yourself to – it can feel amazing to cry while you’re being held.
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How much you talk and what you talk about is entirely up to you.
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Yes, of course. If sleeping is something you enjoy as part of your cuddle therapy, then go right ahead.
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If you become uncomfortable in any way at any time, please say so. Stop whatever is causing discomfort and adjust accordingly. Please do not wait until your discomfort is large, do this at the first hint of it. This is your session and none of it needs to feel any less than great! If you would like to end your session early for any reason simply say so.
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Arousal is a natural and healthy human response to all kinds of things including touch and should not make you feel embarrassed. Acknowledge it, or celebrate your being a healthy human, and let go of it. However, you can ask to switch positions or take a break if you feel awkward about it.
