Spring Cleaning Sexual Beliefs
Every spring, I get the itch to clean things out—to let go of what’s no longer useful and make room for what feels fresh and alive. And while yes, I’ll probably vacuum behind the couch and go through the junk drawer, the most meaningful “spring cleaning” I’m doing this year is inside: clearing out outdated beliefs about sex, pleasure, and my body.
Most of us have absorbed messages that were never ours to begin with—passed down through culture, media, shame, or painful experiences. These beliefs often live quietly in the background, shaping how we show up in bed, in relationships, and even with ourselves. But what if we could choose to believe something new? Something kinder? Something truer?
So I invite you to join me. Let’s dust off those old myths—and replace them with beliefs that actually support the pleasure, connection, and confidence we’re seeking.
🧹 Myth: I can’t get a boner, so my cock is worthless.
🌱 Empowered Belief: My entire body is alive with sensation—and a soft cock can give and receive pleasure in beautiful, connected, and deeply satisfying ways.
We’ve been conditioned to think that an erection is the gold standard of male sexuality. But in reality, pleasure is so much more expansive. Softness invites slowness, tenderness, and deep attunement. It opens up new ways of experiencing intimacy that don’t rely on performance—and often feel even more nourishing.
🧹 Myth: Sex must end in ejaculation, and I have trouble cumming.
🌱 Empowered Belief: I get to define what sex means to me—including connection, presence, emotional intimacy, and joy. It doesn’t have to revolve around ejaculation.
What if sex wasn’t a race to the finish line, but a playground for connection? Letting go of the pressure to “perform” or “finish” can actually lead to more presence, more sensation, and more satisfaction. When we expand our definition of sex, we also expand our capacity to feel.
🧹 Myth: I hate my body, and no one finds me attractive.
🌱 Empowered Belief: My body is a beautiful, worthy vessel for love and pleasure. Every inch of me deserves to be touched, admired, and cherished—exactly as I am.
This one runs deep. But here’s the truth: your body is not a problem to be fixed. It’s a living, breathing source of connection and pleasure. When we start treating ourselves with the tenderness we deserve, we begin to see ourselves through a new lens—and others do, too.
🧹 Myth: My cock is too small to satisfy anyone.
🌱 Empowered Belief: Pleasure isn’t measured in inches—it’s felt in presence, care, and connection. My body is fully capable of giving and receiving amazing pleasure.
This myth has caused way too much unnecessary shame. The truth? Most people don’t care nearly as much about size as they do about how present, caring, and attuned you are. Intimacy isn’t a competition—it’s a dance. And your presence is the most powerful part of your erotic energy.
🧹 Myth: I’m too old to be desired.
🌱 Empowered Belief: My age is a gift—each year has deepened my understanding of myself, my desires, and how to truly connect. That wisdom is magnetic.
Age doesn’t diminish desire—it enriches it. With time often comes emotional maturity, self-awareness, and a deeper capacity for real intimacy. That kind of energy? It’s sexy. You don’t lose value with age—you gain depth, confidence, and clarity. And that’s incredibly attractive.
This spring, I’m not just cleaning up my physical space—I’m refreshing the way I relate to my body, my desires, and my sense of self. And I want to remind you: it’s never too late to unlearn what no longer fits. You get to decide what beliefs you carry forward.
You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not behind.
You are worthy of touch, connection, desire, and joy—exactly as you are.
Let’s leave shame behind and step into a new season with curiosity, compassion, and a whole lot more pleasure.
If you're ready to explore new, affirming ways of relating to your body and sexuality, I’d love to support you. Reach out anytime at 213.588.4242.